Mylife.com: A new tool for bargain-seeking stalkers

What do you get when you combine leading people search technology and the personal data of  50 million+ users? A REALLY, REALLY, BAD idea called mylife.com — a rebranded version of reunion.com profiles linked to personal data from wink.com.

Why should you care? Your reunion.com profile information is now property of the largest online privacy data reseller. That’s right, the company holding  your mylife profile is the same company that can sells personal information about the value of your home, your credit history and more (including satellite photos)!

They collect your personal data

A mylife.com profile (formerly reunion.com profile) includes all the elements of your reunion.com profile AND MORE: name, address, email addresses, high school, year graduated, biggest influence, can’t live without, could live without, hopes & dreams, favorite quote, sense of humor, 20+ personal characteristics, personality type, favorite movies, favorite music, favorite books, favorite tv shows, favorite travel spots, favorite sports, favorite hobbies, Facebook connections, MySpace connections, LinkedIn connections and your personal photo.

They sell your personal data

Wink.com (the same company) sells personal data including: a people search report for $1.95 that includes full name, address, phone number, age, date of birth and possible relationships; a $19.95 monthly membership with unlimited access to people search reports plus property information, death records, marriage records, divorce records and reverse phone lookup; and a $39.95 background report with all other information plus, aliases & maiden names, birth date, address history, property ownership information, relatives & neighbors and ‘much more”!

They own your personal data

Privacy concerns about the merger of reunion.com and wink.com into mylife are well founded. According to their user agreement, “you are licensing to MyLife.com and our third party service providers any ‘content’ you provide through or to MyLife.com and the service they offer. MyLife.com may modify, display, distribute and create new material using such content on MyLife.com’s Sites for the promotion and marketing of our services and the operation of our system.”

MyLife claims to meet “a critical market need left unmet by Google and other people search options”. That need? The ability to conveniently invade people’s of privacy for a fee.

“General search engines… do not access the offline databases you have to check when conducting a thorough search,” according to a Mylife.com’s press statement. “Existing people search sites have limited reach or depth of information and don’t look across the boundaries of proprietary social networks.” For $60 per year, or $36 per quarter, mylife.com subscribers (including cost-conscious thieves and stalkers-in-training) can view expanded personal profiles on individuals and earn ‘use it or lose it’ credits toward purchasing additional personal data.

You don’t have to support it

What can do? 1) Delete your mylife,com (former reunion.com) profile!; 2) tell individuals on your LinkedIn and Facebook networks to do the same; 3) Twitter about it; 4) add a comment to this blog letting everyone know you did; and finally, 5) celebrate the responsiveness of Facebook on privacy issues!

Doing any or all of the above sends mylife.com the same message popularized in the words of Billy Joel’s namesake song: “I don’t care what you say anymore, this is my life.

“Go ahead with your own life, leave me alone.”

Credits: Cartoon courtesy of the privacy commissioner of Canada.

  • Dare

    What about those people that are searching for their classmates and friends? Mylife is helpful to them.

  • http://www.linkedin.com/in/troyjanisch Troy Janisch

    According to 2009 stats, classmates.com and facebook are still better resources than mylife:

    http://blog.compete.com/2009/02/09/facebook-myspace-twitter-social-network/

    …and they’re not reselling profile data!

  • G.Sprague

    MyLife membership is a total waste of money.
    I signed up and after a few minutes on the web site I realized I had been taken. They have a NO REFUND POLICY. SO BUYER BEWARE.
    It is not what it seems. The information they provide could easily be accessed for free on the internet.

  • http://www.linkedin.com/in/troyjanisch Troy Janisch

    After deleting your mylife.com account, you’ll need to unsubscribe from their email list.

    I’m still getting email blasts from Mylife.com — after deleting my mylife.com account…asking me to “Add mylife@mail.mylife.com to your address book or safe list.”

    No Thanks! I hit “unsubscribe” and don’t expect to hear from them again.

  • char123

    mylife is a complete ripoff! they used to be reunion.com, which google shows to have countless negative reviews. I thought they charge only $5, entered cr card info, clicked “next” thinking i havent yet agree to charges. legitimate inernet vendors have you click a final “yes” before charging you. “next” brought me to terms which i did not agree to so i closed the page. while checking my bank statment they had dinged me $1, $59, $1 in seconds. numerous calls to their reps resulted in them being argumentative, hostile. i reported it my bank. then recontacted mylife to get my name removed from their listings.

  • http://mylife.com lvmclvr

    I have to agree with everyone. It’s a lousy, user unfriendly site, they make you call them to delete your account (thsi should be ILLEGAL! You’ve paid for the service and you have to call during their business hours to cancel?!), and there’s little to no information on there. There is no option to hide your profile, change your username, or surf anonymously. All in all, it’s crap.

  • http://mylife.com Angela

    @G.Sprague
    Horrible,they take ur money and tell u they will reconnect u with your friends.I sent email after email to my friend and nothing,they had his wrong email address.I just wonder if they even send the emails.I did a search for him and then I got an email saying he looked at my profile,didn’t happen.He had no idea I was even on there.

  • http://takemeoffthee-maillistnow melissa

    Troy Janisch :After deleting your mylife.com account, you’ll need to unsubscribe from their email list.
    I’m still getting email blasts from Mylife.com — after deleting my mylife.com account…asking me to “Add mylife@mail.mylife.com to your address book or safe list.”
    No Thanks! I hit “unsubscribe” and don’t expect to hear from them again.

  • Barbara Chew

    VERY HORRIBLE SITE! MyLife emailed me with a message that a certain person was searching for me. Well, that person happened to be my DEAD fiancee, who passed away 5 months ago! I called their rep, and asked how this happened…….he put me on hold for 5 minutes, returned with a couple of flaky answers, never apologizing or even offering condolences. I am still in pain and grief, and receiving a message from a dead person via this shoddy site was like a kick in the gut.

  • http://www.annwendellbooks.com Ann Wendell

    Thank god I found this post. I answered an ad seeking Investigative Assistants and…oh god…sent them my resume…$%^&** They sent me a reply to go to a link and “have access to their search software” – MyLife, I didn’t click on their link but hell…I already sent them my resume so am probably doomed already.” If I had gone there and created a profile even more horrors would have occurred!!!

  • http://bogus anonymous

    Wow. You people are really paranoid.
    Don’t forget to wear your foil hats and fake beards when you leave your homes.
    ….loons.

  • http://www.linkedin.com/in/troyjanisch Troy Janisch

    @anonymous Hard to make a convincing case that sharing PERSONAL DATA with strangers is a bad idea when you can only share your argument (a hearty and well researched “you’re paranoid”) with us anonymously.

    As the only one contributing to this thread anonymously (using a bogus name/email/url) — you’re the one ACTING the most paranoid.

    Want to impress me with an argument about how sharing personal data with strangers isn’t a big deal? Include your full name, birthdate, social security number and credit card info. [grin]

  • SJ

    @anonymous
    If it really happened to them, IT AIN’T PARANOIA, “anonymous”.

  • Chris

    @ anonymous:
    My guess is you’re one of the founders of this totally bogus, set-up-for-phishermen site, anon…otherwise you would have
    a) actually used a Name; and
    b) been able to come up with some viable rebuttals to everyone else’s recounts of problems with the site in question.
    Lastly- don’t be dissing loons…even they have more on the ball than you’re showing!

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  • mia

    MyLife is a total scam. I deleted what little profile info I’s given them and canceled my account. No one uses that stupid site anyway. I only use Facebook. 90% of my high school and college friends use FB; no one uses MyLife. FB is free, as well as safer and better in every way!

  • mia

    mia :
    MyLife is a total scam. I deleted what little profile info I’s given them and canceled my account. No one uses that stupid site anyway. I only use Facebook. 90% of my high school and college friends use FB; no one uses MyLife. FB is free, as well as safer and better in every way!

    Correction/Typo: Above should read “info I’d given…”

  • mia

    @Dare

    Everyone who is anyone is now on FB. If someone isn’t on FB, he/she certainly isn’t on MyLife!

  • burnski

    I actually found an old friend that I couldn’t find anywhere else because she wasn’t on facebook, or myspace or any of the other networks and had a very common name. I found her listing and purchased her address and mailed her a letter. Now we are back in contact.

    The records they are selling are public records. If you didn’t find them here, you could find them through other sources. If you want to fight the system, start yelling at Lexus Nexus (good luck btw)

    Thinking there is some magical way to delete one record from one database and suddenly become un-findable is just plain naive at this point.

  • Fred

    Blast I knew it. I received an email to join mylife from one of my contacts on Linkedin and I joined mylife. I don’t think she voluntarily asked me to join mylife.com. When i try to see her profile on mylife, it is not there. Damn you mylife.com I wasted my time with you.

  • http://hotmail Jane

    No, we do NOT voluntarily ask people to join. When you open the e-mail, it collects your entire e-mail register and sends notices to everyone. This sucks!

  • Elizabeth

    for whatever reason, this will not allow me to create a profile so I can delete the picture they have of me up! I am very uncomfortable with this site using this – i authorized linked in and facebook to use my photo, not this random site, and it is not theirs to SELL –
    it keeps saying “sorry, we cannot create your profile at this time” (It looks like i need to create one to access and delete what they are displaying without my consent.)
    There is no contact information – email, phone, whatever, and if you do “whois.com” to find out the registered owner, you get a message saying this is one of the few sites that does not provide that information. i have never come across that before! i’m very upset.

  • Dare

    Some stupid arguments really. First I tested mylife for manual/automatic sending and if I select manual they don’t send invites to all of my friends.

    Second, take a look at quantcast.com enter mylife.com their primary population are OLD people who are trying to reconnect with friends then take a look at facebook most of their population are young people.

    For those of you who wrote that you found 90%+ of your classmates online let me ask you how old are you? Below 30?

    Why don’t you guys simple go there and try for yourself..god God’s sake do not listen to what others say.

    Plus they have a reverse email tool there are sites like spokeo that charge you a lot for that. So Mylife is 80% worth it for the money.

    However, they seem to have some negative reviews because of their forced continuity program…like always huh. You get charged on your credit card automatically and then you start bitching to everyone…lots of companies do this.

  • henry

    The site is worthless. You can create a profile for free, but you can’t do anything with it. You have to pay to be able to send an e-mail or find information about a friend.

  • http://MyLife Darcy Culberg

    I believe my husband bought it to delete contents with certain people on reunion.I saw him as Steven Colbert in his email there is a colleen colbert his special friend,everyone should delete their accts,they are HACKERS

  • Lenora R. Simpson

    TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: I RECEIVED AN EMAIL INFORMING ME THAT THERE WERE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR ME. WHEN I ATTEMPTED TO UNSUBSCRIBE TO THE MYLIFE.COM WEBSITE, I WAS UNABLE TO DO SO. THERE ARE REASONS WHY I HAVE NOT NOR WILL I EVER PARTICIPATE WITH ANY WEBSITE THAT CHANNELS INFORMATION OF ME OR MY WHEREABOUTS TO ANYONE FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT IF THEY WERE A FRIEND AND NEEDED INFORMATION ABOUT ME, THEY WILL HAVE TO TALK TO ME DIRECT. I AM NOT A MEMBER OF MYLIFE, NOR HAVE I SOLICITED THE WEBSITE TO DO ANYTHING ON MY BEHALF. I AM REQUESTING NOW THAT YOU, MYLIFE.COM DELETE MY INFORMATION FROM YOUR DATABASE AND DISCONTINUE ANY EMAILS TO THIS ADDRESS. IMMEDIATE RESPONSE REQUESTED. THANKING YOU IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR EXPEDIENT RESPONSE IN THIS MATTER. LENORA R. SIMPSON

  • Amanda Trumble

    I received an email that someone was searching for me on here (which wasn’t true after I asked her about this). It emailed me at home and at work AND sent me a text message on my cellphone.

    I’m trying to unsubscribe without signing up for this crap but there doesn’t seem to be a way to do this! Shouldn’t this be illegal for them to contact you on your cellphone? Collection agencies have rules regarding this and I also have my phone on the Do Not Call registry.

  • Henry Moskowitz

    @anonymous

    Nice comment to make anonymosly – get paid by Mylife.com much?

  • http://reesnetworks.com Tom

    Amanda you may have hit the jackpot and can help close this operation down. The Government’s Federal Trade Commission (FTC) completely redesigned their site in the past few months and have made it very user friendly to submit complaints. I was reading about their new policies when they evaluate a violation — AND THEY WILL LOOK INTO A SINGLE VIOLATION — and at the top of their list was the question ” is this operation organized in a way that will or could result in numerous scam-type violations?. Clearly these guys will be in trouble. Do it fast while the company still has money because I believe they are making violators pay $10,001 to each of the victims identified.(I know from 20 years in securities biz that number over 10k forces all private and public companies to report the details of such violations to their shareholders — then their balance sheet takes a hit because they have to set aside enough to cover anticipated future penalties (most of which go to the victims). Amazingly, something the gov’t actually appears to be executing quite well. Complain here and get your $10,000 while some is left! Good Luck, Tom

  • cj

    We can not unsubscribe eaither. Never intended to be on the site but someone sent us a request to join them Thought it was like FB. Never paid anything but want to quit recieveing the e-mails…what do we do?

  • al

    @cj
    You can stop receiving mylife.com emails by unsubscribing at http://www.mylife.com/viewNotificationSettings.do

    I have not paid anything, but inadvertently gave access while creating a free membership in order to look up someone else. I thought I was creating a password for the account when in actuality I was giving them the password to my email account. (Stupidly, I used the same one.) Now they have created profiles for everyone in my email contact list.

    Good luck trying to delete your own profile. The help section says to click the “Is This You?” link on your public profile, but no such link exists. You can unsubscribe from the free membership;, but that only means you have no way to access the info they are publishing about you. You would be locked out for good and unable to change or correct any info.

    My tactic has been to edit my personal info so it reflects an incorrect name, birthdate, city/state, and to create a secondary email address to use so that at least my normal email address is not there.

    There should be a law.

  • al

    @al
    PS: I just filed an FTC complaint

  • Concerned MN

    The my life bunch post data on people who are not consenting to anything such as age, family members, home cities. They are implying that all of these people have accounts when they are just data mining to get the info. Should be illegal. There should be a movement to attack these kind of sites and bring them down- Also pressure on IP providers who sell them services, as well as regulators.

  • Concerned MN

    @anonymous
    It is unfortunate that so many people are completely ignorant of privacy concerns. Even legit companies and government organizations are overly casual with private data- and anyone who thinks that laws that allow collecting private data with only a little slap on the wrist for mishandling it will protect the individual…. keep dreaming. Do you think these creeps at mylife care about identity theft etc? NO, just making a buck from their scam.

  • Concerned MN

    @Lenora R. Simpson
    ahhh.. this is not the mylife website! Complain to the FTC!

  • Anonymous

    Seems thay have been siphoning data from classmates.com as they claim that they have my classmates.com account as a “user”.

  • http://Reunioner Tom Kilbride

    @Dare
    I tried to locate people for my high school reunion and I trusted MY LIFE to do as they promised and locate them and allow me to send an E-mail to those lost students. I sent one to myself to see how it worked. Instead of forwarding my message via E-mail they each received an invitation to join and they would not get my message unless they paid up before hand. They did not even get to know who sent the message without paying the fee. BIG Disappointment and a lot of wasted effort.

  • Rhonda Waller

    Not Sure what this is. Recd email (replied with an email)then had to pay to join. Do not even know if email was originally sent to me and email I replied to was sent. No other transactions took place.
    No confirmation and no record of the emails???
    They just want the info and the money? We had our reunion this past summer and have looked up numerous people through google, classmates, and neighbors.
    So when I got the mylife email, I thought it was a return info. I assumed it legite. Better thing is if you like research, do not do it late at night, and do not pay any fees for a membership

  • SeppW

    I’m trying to figure out how they got the names of myself and immediate family members. I never signed up for an account nor do I think a family member has. I read through the FAQs and while it says one can delete one’s public profile, it does say any information they have is a matter of public record. So Effun What! I did not create an account so other people could find me. I’m not interested in other people finding me. Nonetheless, in order to delete the public profile, I have to login and click on some link and follow directions. Ok, so now I have to create an account to remove my public profile. That kinda like clicking a link in Phishing scam or an “subscribe” feature. Once you respond, you just validated your existence and whatever else Personally Identifiable Information revealed. Effun Jerks! Well, this issue is dead. Last post was 43 days ago. MyLife.com is safe and secure. Good night princess ….

  • Frustration

    I have been fighting MyLife for months. I had a person stalking me and my family. All my information was on this site. I have yet to understand how to remove it.
    It says to click “This is me”on your account and it will delete all information. I have no “This is me”. I have tried to change my name and information, email addresses but they keep everything. They show every alias that I have tried to fool them with and have my relatives and contacts on each account. I have finally purchased the service of a company to remove my name from this site but when it is removed, it resurface. You don’t have to be on the web to have your information on these Search sites. If you have ever place an order with some companies, they will sell your information to MyLife. If you don’t believe that you or your child is on MyLife then click on their site. You will learn things about yourself that you never knew.. You would be surprised at the relatives that you will have required, some that are dead or never lived.. If you want to see just how bad this search engine is,make a false account.. Look that name up and you will be promised to give all the information from birth for that false person and you will pay for it. You don’t have to join it just give them information and they will keep it, after all they don’t care if it is true, maybe someone will buy it..

  • ainsley

    Mylife.com is a complete scam and rip off. It was created by a once-modest, happily married guy whose ego has flown past the sun. He divorced his wife, he’s is a complete player and now preys on people’s vulnerabilities on this site. Cancel your account and stick to FB and classmates.com.

  • Imnotsureifthisisgoingtobesoldornot

    it said to post my name ( this is not mylife ) so i didnt cuz im not sure. moving on to mylife. i read all the comments and seen the commercials. it seems like a scam and for stalkers. whatever you decide, i recommend not joining. its says FREE and you pay for adresses, memberships to buy ADRESSES and other crap. its not worth it. if you sign up and then see if people are looking for you, and you dont know anyone that age or something similar, they are either testing(not likey) or are stalking you. you probably already have an account if you didnt sign up, because as it says in some of the comments they find all your relitives and their relitives etc. and if you go onto that account, it confirms you are an actual person. so they they can publish it. there should be a law, but i guess that the goverment figures common sense. they shouldnt even been going on the scam of a “free” website. Account = free, search on account = GIVE US CREDIT CARD. it also says in above comments that they want your social security number, your phone # and other things such as adresses and birth dates. In one of the comments it says that they got a notification somone is looking for them. They said it turns out to be their dead fiancee. so, goes to prove, your name may be being used by someone else right this very minute. creepy thought.

    Next point. does it seem safe? people seem so. on commercials it looks safe, and they say its FREE! nope. probably says http, not https, like this website. which of course means they can pobably sell the email you gave them, so, give out fake things. unless you want certain things which they send to your email. Example: On toontown, they say if you want to type instead of speedchat, you must go into options of something, and they send it to your parents email. of course, i trust disney. i dont trust disneymovierewards. they sell your email. back to my point. that is the only reason i give emails out. i dont even have a youtube account. Sad, huh? moving on ( sorry i get off topic ). that was the example. so really, if you trust these websites, you might as well cancel your bank account. you are getting scammed.

    most likely anyway. i havent signed up. i was goining to tonight, but i wanted to make sure it wasnt a scam. im glad i did. this is pretty long, so im gonna go. DONT SIGN UP.

  • Hello Kitty

    I think myLife is bad news for every one. What if you don’t want your information publicly available to everyone? What if you’d rather not find anyone and not be found by anyone? What if you just wanna be left alone? What I don’t understand is how is this company making people’s information available on the internet without their consensus? Is that even legal? If person X does not sign up myLife, what right does myLife have to publish any and all information about person X? Is that not invasion of privacy and interference into someone’s personal life? I think its time for people to join hands and go the class action law suit path.

  • http://MyLife also frustrated

    After deleting MyLife account I have been trying numerous time to unsubscribe to the constant spam emails from MyLife. When I click on Unsubcribe the page never loads. Says there is an error. I have been trying for over a month to unsubcribe but no luck. Who do I complain to? Isnt this against the law?

  • http://MyLife also frustrated

    Further more, I cannot even to to mylife.com. I just tried it. It comes back an error. Does anybody know what it going on. Is the website shut down? I think someone should start a class action suit! Are there any attorneys out there who are also victims of this or would like to start a claim.

  • wary consumer

    Thanks for posting the article. I’ve seen the ads online and on television, and the service ALMOST seemed compelling. Thought I would check out what the buzz was on the service online, and I found all this great information to warn me. Thanks for satisfying my curiosity the easy and inexpensive way!

  • Susan

    @Dare
    That may be so, but for something that said it was free and charges you 107.00 I don’t think it is worth that much. I don’t know where my head was when I gave them my CC info.

  • Annoyed

    I googled my family members, and clicked the link regarding it and it had TONS of info on my whole family!! Here’s my story:

    I made a fake email and signed up, then claimed my “dad’s” profile, which required me to answer questions to prove it was mine, and the questions were about my OLD HOME ADDRESSES. Even one that i haven’t been to since i was in elementary school, which of course I couldn’t remember. So guess what, I HAD UNLIMITED chances to try to get it in (from multiple choices that never randomized) I finally got it and I changed what info I could, like where we live currently, number etc.

    I couldn’t get more and I happened to have a friend who got suckered before me (how I heard about it in the first place), and she looked up the name and it had ALL sorts of stuff I barely knew about my dad myself such as his past marriage over 35 years ago (I’m 22) old jobs, ugh! What’s worse is that there are multiple accounts for my mom, my sister and another one for my dad. If I truly have to pay to change the important stuff, I’m looking at 300 dollars mim. I’m going to do whatever power I have and get this place shutdown… Of course I’m sure it’s on other websites as well… What’s the use?

  • http://MyLife.com squaw

    After agreeing to a 6 month (SIX MONTH) membership @ $11.75 & submitting my Visa card number I discove two days later that MyLife.com has charged my account with $71.70 !!
    What kind of scam are they running ?? Theft & misrepresentation to say the least !! I now feel like a fool because they have my card number for future references !

  • Peelster1

    Mylife.com is even worse then this! I have several family members that don’t even use any form of social networking at all and don’t even post personal data on the internet. Yet somehow mylife.com has profiles on them. I’m not even sure if they can remove those profiles as THEY NEVER CREATED AN ACCOUNT! They have NEVER used reunion.com or wink.com either. The people who own these websites need to be put in jail.

  • Smitty

    MyLife has an A+ rating with the Better Business Bureau. According to the BBB, of the
    1, 063 complaints received, 540 were given full refunds and 42 were given partial refunds. I guess this was satisfactory for the BBB, but it isn’t for me.

  • MI5

    @Concerned MN
    NOW you’re talking.

  • MI5

    @Smitty
    “MyLife has an A+ rating with the Better Business Bureau. According to the BBB, of the
    1, 063 complaints received, 540 were given full refunds and 42 were given partial refunds. I guess this was satisfactory for the BBB, but it isn’t for me.”

    Exactly. The people shouldn’t have been ripped off and made to fight for their money back in the first place. You are better off calling your local “fact finder” journalists (“7 on your side” etc) than BBB if you want to put some sting into it.

  • Ap

    I’m very privacy oriented and have never signed up for any social networking sites let alone mylife. This seems criminal. My life has all kinds of information about me posted that I never gave them. It’s impossible to delete.

  • ZIONNE17

    THESE SITES ARE REALLY BECOMING SCARY!NO PRIVACY…I GUESS BIG BROTHER IS REAL!!MAY GOD HAVE MERCY UPON US ALL!!!

  • scared

    My stalker found me.  In court he said he used mylife to find me.  He said that this is the internet age and he will always be able to find me.  He got probation and a restraining order.  He never violates the restraining order but he has come 300 miles to my town and has been seen there by my friends several times since then.  He’s a terrorist, and so is mylife.

  • The2ndjnolan

    still my wife living apart for 2 years -  on my computer up comes a singles thing and she is looking for sex  her real name and location comes up with a picture of my 10 year old daughter she has over 250 replies -  any sex offender, pervert, molester, deviant, etc. knows exactly where my daughter is!  I don’t think i will ever recover from this mentally or emotionally.  I am sick out of my mind for my daughter.  It is still rolling on.

  • Asiarose

    1st)  My husband is in law enforcement and our privacy is extremely important, my life allows people to literally pull up your home address if they are a paying member EVEN if that info is not in your profile.  I can’t tell you how terrifying that is.  2nd)  I found a profile set up for my father who died 15 yrs ago I found out that my life automatically pulled information from my profile that linked old public information for my dad and automatically created a profile.  Utterly disturbing.

  • Nb333333

    It hurts me to see the term “…stalker in training…” used in such a generalized way. The generic tone suggests that there are multitudes of men who intend to physically or communicatively stalk a woman for whom they have perfectly normal feelings with no aggressive agenda of any sort. If a man sees a woman’s address on “MyLife” and wants to verify that she does in fact live there, is it stalking to park across the street to visually ascertain that the MyLife address is correct? He sees her and leaves. He then will either show up at her front door to say hello, or he will mail a letter to her postal address. In neither case does he intend to repeat these action more than once. If the physical confrontation yields a sense that she is afraid, uncomfortable or simply indifferent, he accepts the outcome and does nothing more. If there is a sense of friendliness which he misinterprets, it may be that a second contact will be neccessary for him to see the picture clearly. Once he gains a clear interpretation of her demeanor, he backs off and leaves it at that. This is stalking? This is the behavior of an obsessed individual who cannot control his/her compulsion to pursue someone? Did it ever occur to you that 99% of the men using MyLife are in control of their behavior, regardless of how much they want the companionship of a woman whom they love? Your language suggests that many of us are being enabled to invade personal privacy.
    If a man sees a woman at the workplace and wants to ask her for a date, does he not have to physically confront her at least one single time? If she says no and he never asks again, would you find a twisted logic to judge this as harrassment? Suppose he instead were to ask her at her front door? This is a sign that he will be following her wherever she goes, making endless phone calls and emails? You hear two news stories about a couple of nuts, each of whom covertly tresspassed on the property
    of a woman to whom he was attracted or formerly married, followed by an interview with a lawyer and-or police detective, who describe all of the traits of a stalker as if the few whom they have apprehended have now endowed them with specialized knowledge of legions of unstable men.
    By the way, you are 100% correct that MyLife is a a criminal operation. I too had to cancel and change my charge card. I consider it to have been worth the stress. In 1967-68 I fell in love with a thirteen year-old girl who was extremely affectionate toward me. Suddenly she lost interest. My memory of her has been an emotional burden of which I have been incapable of shedding. In short, she was “the one”. I have not laid eyes on her since 1972. I found her address on MyLife and have been working for years on a letter to her. (I am trying to make it clear to her that I will never physically “appear”, as she is married with children.)
    The letter will say all of the things which I needed to say when I was thirteen, had I the words, the maturity, and the life experience to say that I would give my life to spend two years with her.

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  • Nb333333

    It hurts me to see the term “…stalker in training…” used in such a generalized way. The generic tone suggests that there are multitudes of men who intend to physically or communicatively stalk a woman for whom they have perfectly normal feelings with no aggressive agenda of any sort. If a man sees a woman’s address on “MyLife” and wants to verify that she does in fact live there, is it stalking to park across the street to visually ascertain that the MyLife address is correct? He sees her and leaves. He then will either show up at her front door to say hello, or he will mail a letter to her postal address. In neither case does he intend to repeat these action more than once. If the physical confrontation yields a sense that she is afraid, uncomfortable or simply indifferent, he accepts the outcome and does nothing more. If there is a sense of friendliness which he misinterprets, it may be that a second contact will be neccessary for him to see the picture clearly. Once he gains a clear interpretation of her demeanor, he backs off and leaves it at that. This is stalking? This is the behavior of an obsessed individual who cannot control his/her compulsion to pursue someone? Did it ever occur to you that 99% of the men using MyLife are in control of their behavior, regardless of how much they want the companionship of a woman whom they love? Your language suggests that many of us are being enabled to invade personal privacy.
    If a man sees a woman at the workplace and wants to ask her for a date, does he not have to physically confront her at least one single time? If she says no and he never asks again, would you find a twisted logic to judge this as harrassment? Suppose he instead were to ask her at her front door? This is a sign that he will be following her wherever she goes, making endless phone calls and emails? You hear two news stories about a couple of nuts, each of whom covertly tresspassed on the property
    of a woman to whom he was attracted or formerly married, followed by an interview with a lawyer and-or police detective, who describe all of the traits of a stalker as if the few whom they have apprehended have now endowed them with specialized knowledge of legions of unstable men.
    By the way, you are 100% correct that MyLife is a a criminal operation. I too had to cancel and change my charge card. I consider it to have been worth the stress. In 1967-68 I fell in love with a thirteen year-old girl who was extremely affectionate toward me. Suddenly she lost interest. My memory of her has been an emotional burden of which I have been incapable of shedding. In short, she was “the one”. I have not laid eyes on her since 1972. I found her address on MyLife and have been working for years on a letter to her. (I am trying to make it clear to her that I will never physically “appear”, as she is married with children.)
    The letter will say all of the things which I needed to say when I was thirteen, had I the words, the maturity, and the life experience to say that I would give my life to spend two years with her.

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  • Lape_ashley

    my name is ashley

  • Carmie1969

    “is it stalking to park across the street to visually ascertain that the
    MyLife address is correct? He sees her and leaves. He then will either
    show up at her front door to say hello, or he will mail a letter to her
    postal address. In neither case does he intend to repeat these action
    more than once. If the physical confrontation yields a sense that she is
    afraid, uncomfortable or simply indifferent, he accepts the outcome and
    does nothing more. If there is a sense of friendliness which he
    misinterprets, it may be that a second contact will be neccessary for
    him to see the picture clearly.”

    Hate to break it to you, but this is disturbing behavior to say the least.  Just showing up at someone’s door to ask her out is not cool.  Mailing a letter is okay, but if you don’t get a response, understand that she is NOT interested.

    Also, obsessing about a girlfriend you had when you were 13 is pretty weird too.  Especially since she’s married and has a family.  I’ve been contacted on Facebook by childhood friends/boyfriends, but just to catch up and talk about old times.  Never had one write to tell me I’m his one true love.  Sounds like you have some deep-seated issued, my friend.

  • anyone

    I actually was stalked thanks to mylife.com and it was not nice at all, it’s scary and can truly mess you up no matter how strong you are.  showing up at someone’s residence, bullying someone online or any obsessive behavior towards someone who is not in the present time part of your life is absolutely WRONG

  • Deffebachmiranda@yahoo.com

    I’m so mad that my ex made many accounts under my email addresses when he stold my iPhone 4 and had it hacked into I’m glad that I’ve been talking to sprint every day sience it came up missing on jan 17 around 6:00 I got it back jan 21 around 5:30 what a weirdo Plc seek rehab

  • Deffebachmiranda@yahoo.com

    O p.s not to mention look at all his mugshots and thanks for robbing my house Justin fischbach grow up u stalker thank god I get a new iPhone tomorrow and got a restraining order on u now good night

  • Jimmy Edgar

    If they wanted to be found they would have a ‘Facebook’ profile!

  • Wiser than I used to be

    What I learned many moons ago is this … if I’m signing up for anything online, I use a VISA gift card that I can register online and use online.  Normally I get it for $25 dollars.  Then after I use it to sign up that states they charge only a certain amount, I quickly go out and use up the rest of the gift card grocery shopping.  Now if they try to bilk me for more than they originally stated?  I have the ultimate last laugh! 

  • No

    I have no idea why this site is even being run by the same people.  Someone needs to run this company into the ground and fast.

  • http://twitter.com/AnnieGraceman Annie Graceman

    omg that sucks they alerted someone searched me I wanna know who

  • http://twitter.com/AnnieGraceman Annie Graceman

    That sucks they alerted me someone searched me poopy

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  • none

    Not if I intentionally do NOT have any public profiles

  • Teresa Stokes

    I was looking for a distant cousin of mine and began the sign-up, inputting her name and year of birth and my email and not much else. I did not finish the sign-up but almost everyday I get an email from them saying things like “we have found details of x”. “You are just moments away from connecting with x but you didn’t complete the sign-up process.” So they will continue to spam you if they got your email but you didn’t sign up. I have not yet tried to unsubscribe as I was planning to join with my spare email, a test one which has my friend’s cat’s name, residence (miles from where I live), work (catching mice) and interests (sleeping on my lap) but having read some of the comments below I think even that is a step too far.

  • Mel

    Hi, I
    saw my picture, my name and age on MyLife.com. And on that website it
    says I live in California. But I never subscribed there, and I live in
    Holland. So I am guessing they took my picture, name and age probably
    from hi5.com (because there is the only place I had that pic). How can I
    make them to take it off???? Me living in Holland that is!!! pffff